3 Ways to Get out of a Bad Date

A bad date can be anything from having an extremely rude date to just being with someone you simply don’t have enough of a connection with. Whatever scenario you may be in, know that you don’t have to suck it up and sit through it. There are ways to get out of a bad date without being mean or rude. Here are simple ways to do so. 

It’s not you or your date. It’s the chemistry. Sometimes, you just don’t have it. If you ever find yourself in a situation where the company you have is clearly not someone you’re enjoying with, save yourself the trouble and get out of there fast—without being rude.  Here are some ways to do that:

1. Set a Time Cap Pre-Date

The safest way to make an early exit without scrambling for an excuse is to tell your date beforehand that you can’t stay for long. If you’re going out on a dinner date, perhaps an hour to an hour-and-a-half is enough time for you to have a meal and gauge if your date could be the kind of company you’d enjoy being with in the future.

By telling your date early on, you’re already giving yourself the chance to leave, and it wouldn’t be rude and unexpected. If you do find yourself liking the person, then just invite him/ her for coffee or a night cap. Better yet, set up a second date on another day.

2. Have a Pre-set Post-Date Activity

Make sure you have a pre-set post-date activity—like going to a friend’s party or attending a gallery opening—so you can have a valid excuse to either go on with the date or shut it down for good. Here, you have two options: If the date went south, just say you have to leave for your other appointment. If it’s going well, invite him/her to join you.

3. Be Honest

This will take a lot of guts, but at least, you won’t have to feel bad about lying to your date. If the date is going so bad that you both clearly aren’t enjoying it, just give it up and cut the crap. You might be surprised to know that the feeling may be mutual, too, and you’d actually enjoy each other’s company without the pressure to turn it into a love affair. And who knows? It might just become a love match.

Dating nowadays can be stressful and tedious. You’re putting in time, money, and effort into it so it should be something worth your while. For those times when it’s clearly not working out, you owe it to yourself to not have to put up with it any longer than you have to. So go ahead and bow out of it. No judgment.